tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-86958948055737108242024-03-08T07:37:25.513-08:00The Little Things Between Him and MeTidbits about relationships, dating, and just plain getting alongEmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-60348997883792236292011-04-28T00:28:00.000-07:002011-05-05T12:53:35.172-07:00Dropping Hints<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Let’s admit it – we all do it.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">It’s fun and harmless to drop hints for birthday presents or where we want to be taken for dinner, but too often we drop hints that are actually major emotional bombs.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">A lot of the time, we use hints to skirt around really important issues in the relationship that need to be discussed, but we would rather jab at each other until the other person surrenders and brings it up.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Dropping hints is a very non-confrontational way of letting the other person know what’s on our heart and mind. Then, when the other person gets frustrated at our mixed messages, <i>we</i> get frustrated that <i>they</i> are frustrated and aren’t picking up on our confusing clues.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Though we might not have the courage or energy to sit down and really explore the issues with our partner, it is imperative to communicate clearly and openly if we want to get anything resolved. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Do the real work required in a relationship, and I guarantee it will yield a harvest of good results for both parties.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">If we don't, it could turn into a real mess:</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/ato4eGGlk-I?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-37346592999424083122011-04-27T01:24:00.000-07:002011-05-05T12:55:27.086-07:00Paying Compliments<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><!--StartFragment--> </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Compliments are like the icing on the cake during a really great date. Compliments spice things up and make everything a little sweeter during that first stage of dating. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">The problem is, compliments fly out the window once things settle down. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">Compliments easily turn into insults when we get mad each other, and a sarcastic compliment can be like a bullet to the heart. </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">The good thing about a really genuine compliment is that it can turn everything around. A well-timed compliment can be a life-saver when the date is going horribly wrong. A well-received compliment can also reignite that spark that used to burn bright.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="text-align: left;">When the night is spiraling downhill, consider the art of paying a good compliment. It will certainly pay off.</div><!--EndFragment--> <br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/3pK2XCNhDsU?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-53760792564702238422011-04-07T13:52:00.001-07:002011-05-04T01:18:23.474-07:00ShoesEveryone likes shoes. Surprisingly though, I am not the shoe diva in the relationship - Nick is. Hard to believe, but it's true; the man simply loves his shoes.<br />
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I own the basic necessities: flats, some heels, sandals, tennis shoes, and boots, but Nick on the other hand, has a much wider selection. There are the dress shoes (American and European), casual shoes for jeans (leather and canvas), gym shoes, biking shoes, skate shoes, basketball shoes, running shoes, rugby cleats, extreme weather hiking boots, and the next on the list is, indoor soccer shoes?!<br />
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Nick takes care of his shoes in the same way that I take care of my nails. Not only is he proud of them, but he also maintains them with diligence - the same could be said about me and my epidermis.<br />
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And that's because I'm one of those girls who loves admiring their own nails. I admit, it's silly and a little vain, but I adore having beautifully kept nails. I mean, your hands do all your work for you all day long, so it's kind of pleasurable to have something nice to look at when you're typing out a paper, writing a letter, working the cash register, resting on the steering wheel, or sipping a glass of wine.<br />
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According to Nick, the same reasoning is behind men and their shoes. You wear shoes everyday, all day, so it makes sense to have a shoe for every occasion. Apparently, he loves admiring his shoes in all the different activities he may be engaged in. Whether he's pedaling on his bike, going to a job interview, tearing up the rugby field, hiking in the mountains, working out in the gym, or stepping into the club, he can always look down at his shoes and think, "Man, your shoes are awesome right now."<br />
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Just watch how a guy contemplates his ensemble for the night, concentrating deeply on this shirt or that, this belt or watch, this sweater or jacket, working different color schemes all to cleverly showcase the greatness of his shoes.<br />
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My only point in bringing this up is to show that guys too can be wardrobe queens and be just as picky about clothing and fashion as girls are. Guys may make fun of girls for taking forever to change our clothes, or do our hair, or put on our make-up, but guys too can be sticklers for appearance when it comes to looking good.EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-38837016667821951722011-04-07T13:51:00.001-07:002011-05-04T01:17:13.213-07:00ParkingI wish I could defy the stereotype that women are bad drivers, but sadly, I am horrible with cars.<br />
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I know some chicks that can change their own oil, but I honestly didn't even know how to pump gas until after I got my permit.<br />
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I'm not saying that I cause accidents left and right when I'm on the road, but in no means am I an expert. I am much better now than I used to be about changing lanes, keeping up with the flow of traffic, and coming to a complete stop at the light, but parallel parking is still an excruciating pain.<br />
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You would think that my dad would have taught me (him being the master of all things automotive), but he's absolutely opposed to driving with me. Since I got my learner's permit, I've driven in the car with him a grand total of 2 times.<br />
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The first time, my family was going back to Pacifica from my aunt's house in Daly City. My dad agreed to let me drive us the 7 minutes home. Now, the freeway entrance from Clarinada onto the 1 is kind of tricky, and my dad was yelling at me to accelerate. He got so freaked out that we were going to crash, that he grabbed the wheel from me in a panic and forcefully maneuvered me over a few lanes. Needless to say, his confidence in me was insulting. He swore off driving with me ever again, but since nothing really had gone wrong, I believe it was just his anxiety.<br />
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The second time, my family was driving to Daly City from Pacifica to my aunt's house. Though he had forbade me to ever touch the car, again he agreed to let me drive us for 7 minutes. This time, he had mentally prepared a bit more, so the moment he got into the passenger's seat, he reclined his chair slightly and closed his eyes. In a calm voice he verbalized to me, "Emily, you're going to be fine, don't worry about it, you will be great. Just breathe, relax, and enjoy the drive. We are going to be alright, everything is just fine." He never opened his eyes once until we arrived at my aunt's. I think the pep talk was more for him than for me.<br />
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Now, given this back history of my dad's incapacity to drive with me, you can guess that my default instructor was my mom. Blind leading the blind I think, because my mother <i>to this day</i> cannot parallel park.<br />
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Somehow, I got away with not knowing up until last year. I was only forced to learn because I finally moved to the city (away from the vast parking availability in Pacifica).<br />
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Nick never really picked up on my lack of parking skills, because whenever we were together, he was the one driving. Now that I was driving myself everywhere, it was only a matter of time before a crisis brought my weaknesses to light.<br />
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Nick was driving with me in the Mission, and the task was to parallel park on Guerrero. I can usually guess-timate the angle within 20 tries if I'm parking on the right side of the street, but in this case, I had to park on the left.<br />
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The first sign of trouble was Nick indicating at the spot, and in response, I cringed with an audible "ugghhh". Nick started rushing me to "C'mon, c'mon c'mon start backing up!" but I'm already sweating with nervousness. A parking attendant is in front of us, helping me to maneuver into the spot, but I couldn't hear what he was saying or understand his hand gestures. Between Nick yelling at me, the attendant wildly gesticulating at me, and all the angry cars honking behind me, I totally freaked out. I missed the angle the first time, I missed it the second time, and the third time, I scraped my tires against the curb. Nick was utterly bewildered and fuming mad, "You seriously don't know how to parallel park? You've been driving for 3 years!"<br />
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What came next tried both our patience; he gave me an emergency lesson in Parallel Parking 101. He was convicted to cure me of my ignorance, but only in a big safe empty lot of course. I had no idea that the secret was as elementary as turning my wheel at the point of the back wheel of the car next to me. I swear it's the simplest trick, but unless someone dictated it to me, I would be guessing for the rest of my life.<br />
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I thank Nick for his valuable wisdom and guidance, without which I would be completely clueless. I can proudly say that I now know how to parallel park, but the prize wasn't without its price.<br />
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</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-51502089457337821522011-03-17T12:26:00.000-07:002011-05-18T23:27:06.238-07:00Exercising<div class="MsoNormal">Exercise is my <a href="http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=frenemy">frenemy</a>. She is a friend because she keeps me healthy, but she is an enemy for being the other woman in my boyfriend and my relationship.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I couldn’t detest exercise more. If obesity didn’t exist as a truly frightening disease, I doubt I would care about exercising at all. I would be completely content to never run a mile again for the rest of my life if it meant that my body would never suffer the consequences. Oh, how I dream of this alternate reality.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’m told that exercise should be a natural, pleasant element fused effortlessly into the everyday life, but to me, it is an excruciating pain that I whole-heartedly resist to practice.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Nick couldn’t be more the opposite. Nick is a workout fanatic - from playing college rugby, to lifting weights, to racing bikes competitively, he is head-over-heels for physical activity. He loves being outside. WTF right?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">My attitude towards exercise is more than a simple love & hate dynamic. I see exercise as this smoking hot woman that Nick is cheating on me with. Except, he doesn’t realize why I’m so upset about their intimate relationship – instead, he encourages me to be buddies with her and try to get along! I am jealous of Nick’s affinity for exercise, and I wish he wasn’t so fond of her. Then, I wouldn’t feel so bad for hating her so much.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Sometimes I make an effort with exercise, but when I do, I make sure the whole world knows about it. I’m that obnoxious friend that will find a way to slip into the conversation that I went to the gym today, even if the fact has no relation to what we are actually talking about. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I am that same obnoxious friend that turns leisurely strolls into power-walking sessions when I realize I haven’t exercised that day. A lot of the time, Nick will be chatting away with an easy stride, and I will be shouting back at him over my shoulder. Then he throws it in my face that power-walking barely counts as exercise, and I might as well enjoy the scenery. Back to the gym, I am told.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">As of a week ago, I started <a href="http://www.fourhourbody.com/">the 4 Hour Body</a> diet and exercise routine, in attempt to revolutionize my health. The plan enforces a "minimum dose" of exercise principal that sounds easy enough. So far, it’s been good, but we’ll see how long it lasts. Nick has his doubts that I will stick to it, but I am challenging myself to overcome his expectations (and my own) and actually do it. </div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-21515404315446076962011-03-17T12:24:00.000-07:002011-05-04T01:14:10.684-07:00Being Cold<div class="MsoNormal">I’m not sure what exactly is wrong with me, but I am always cold. I think it’s a curse. Fortunately, this curse is a burden that I do not have to shoulder alone. Against his will, Nick is fated to bear it with me. Unfortunately, it has plagued him beyond the point of insanity. Good for me, but bad for him.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">As much as I love San Francisco, I hate the weather. No matter the temperature, I am always freezing! It’s the fog, the mist, the rain, the clouds, the wind, or the breeze. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Or it’s just me.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I think I was definitely born this way. I remember hating to accompany my mother to the Alemany farmer’s market as a kid, because I simply couldn’t stand being out in the wind. I remember hating to shop at Safeway, because the refrigerated aisles gave me goose bumps. I remember hating long drives in the car with my parents, because the air-conditioning simply kills me!</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I know that you, reader, feel bad for me. But I am not the one to feel sorry for. My poor boyfriend is the victim for having to deal with my disfunction.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">You know, I never thought that I was abnormal until I met Nick. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">He couldn’t understand why on earth, in 65-degree weather in the sun, <i>I was cold? </i></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">He soon found out that taking walks in the park or the beach or around the block was impossibly difficult. If we did set out with me wearing a long sleeve shirt, I soon complained of needing a sweatshirt. If we did set out with me wearing a sweatshirt, I would complain of needing mittens. If we did set out with me wearing mittens, I would complain of needing close-toed shoes because my flip-flops were giving me frostbite! </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Then, even in those instances where I’d be fully bundled up - with a hoodie, jacket, mittens, boots, and scarf – I would take one look at him in his tee-shirt and shorts and be cold again! Just the sight of his bare arms and legs would make my teeth chatter! I don’t know how he survives in such a little clothing outside in the open air, but even thinking about it makes me shiver.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">No matter the season, no matter the hour, no matter the place – I am unchangeably cold. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">If we are having a coffee date in Starbucks, I am shivering. If we are hiking in the mountains, I am shivering. If we are studying in the library, I am shivering. I have accepted that my life will always be such, and thankfully Nick is moving past his denial.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In attempt to rationalize my horrible condition, Nick believes that I have a circulation problem. This very well could be true, but I’ve never discussed it with my doctor. I am simply too embarrassed. Perhaps, more exercise would remedy this blood problem, but we shall talk about my aversion to exercise another time.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It’s kind of like how I was at band practice one day, and the drummer was wearing a ridiculous pair of bright red earmuffs. It was late spring, we were indoors, the heater was on, and giggling I was like, what is up with your earmuffs? As we poked fun, he simply replied, “I’ve just got back from a ski trip, and my core body temperature hasn’t adjusted yet.” Core body temperature? So funny and silly, I thought.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">But sadly, my life has turned into a more dramatic recurring nightmare of this. I am a freak with earmuffs that’s continually adjusting from an imaginary snow, and Nick is a hysterical critic asking me why I am so damn cold.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Nick has learned to accommodate my temperature problems, but they are still problems. Me being cold is an inevitable, irreversible, irrevocable part of our relationship. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I know he wishes it wasn’t so.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-43212492343787568932011-02-24T11:08:00.000-08:002011-05-04T01:11:15.618-07:00Being a Glee Fan<div class="MsoNormal">Guys hate Glee, and girls are crazy about it. Although this will reveal to the world what kind of person I am, I will come out and say it - I love Glee. <br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">I will attempt to answer the question of <a href="http://thegentlemansblogtoultimateclassiness.blogspot.com/2011/02/just-preface.html">"Why do you like Glee"</a>, as posed by <a href="http://thegentlemansblogtoultimateclassiness.blogspot.com/">Jeff</a>.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><a href="http://www.fox.com/glee/">Glee</a> is about having dreams, achieving those dreams, and the whole way through, singing your heart out to get there.<br />
<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glee_(TV_series)">More on Glee</a></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Case 1 - <b><a href="http://www.fox.com/glee/bios/lea-michele/">Rachel Berry</a> </b><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">The true anchor of the show - Rachel wants to be a star. And with a voice like hers, every audience member can already see she is one. Yes, she is snobby, manipulative, selfish, and annoying, but she is determined to shine. One can admire her confidence and determination despite the fact that she is a nerdy Gleek. Rachel does not let her social status define her though, she knows who she is and what she wants. You can’t stop the Rachel Berry train - it’s best you just hop on.<br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Rachel finds a song for every feeling that she’s feeling – but we all do this in some way or another! Yes, she gets to perform it on stage 99% of the time – a little dramatic, but really, who wouldn’t love to do that? </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Now, if the boy you were head over heels for finally confesses his love to you, why wouldn’t you sing Journey’s “Faithfully” with him?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TY3CWBoceKc&feature=related">Watch clip here!</a></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And then, when that same boy tells you that another girl is more beautiful than you, why wouldn’t you sing Katy Perry’s “Firework” to remind yourself that you are better than that? </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfki8egUric">Watch clip here!</a><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Case 2 - <b><a href="http://www.fox.com/glee/bios/cory-monteith/">Finn Hudson</a></b><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Finn is Rachel’s counterpart. He is Rachel’s dream come true and the missing puzzle piece for the Glee Club. He is the strong lead male vocal that the team needs, and with him on their side, they actually have a chance to succeed. Like a savior, Finn brings tremendous leadership to the team and brings them together in the clutch. He redeems the Glee Club’s reputation by being the only jock in school to be both quarterback on the football team and a Gleek. More importantly, Finn is able to find himself through song.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Now, if your mom, who has always been your only family, was getting married and you were confused about it especially since it would mean having a gay brother, wouldn’t you sing Bruno Mars’ “Just The Way You Are” to show that you could be a man and accept all of it?<br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6J98QvCDTEo">Watch clip here!</a></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Case 3 - <a href="http://www.fox.com/glee/bios/chris-colfer/"><b>Kurt Hummel</b></a> <o:p></o:p><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Kurt is in the closet about his sexual orientation at McKinley high, but the Glee Club gives him the confidence to reveal who he is, because he knows he has their support. Being in the Glee Club allows Kurt to showcase his talent and also end the identity battle going on inside himself. Kurt is not only free, but empowered.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">If you found a haven where you felt safe, and in the process made a wonderful friend who is just what you need, wouldn’t you sing “Baby it’s Cold Outside” with them during Christmas to express the new-found warmth in your heart?<o:p></o:p><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">As you can see, there is so much to learn and love about Glee. Glee tells you that your dreams are possible and if you believe in yourself, you can make them come true. I think that Glee is a little more realistic portrayal of this principle than most Disney movies, because seriously, there is real struggle involved for these characters. Glee shows that you can determine your success, but it won’t be an easy road.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I tried to get Nick to see the merit of the show, but he wasn’t interested. I think all the song and dance turned him off, but for me, that’s what makes this show brilliant. Sorry guys, but you're missing out.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-14838583319475766882011-02-24T10:13:00.000-08:002011-05-04T01:37:08.252-07:00Drinking Beer<div class="MsoNormal">Traditionally, beer is for men. And although I have learned to accommodate its taste, I will always think of it as a man’s drink. Here’s why:</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>It’s gross.<o:p></o:p></b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Why else do girls always request wine coolers for their “first” drink as a teenager? We females can admit that beer tastes horrible! </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It’s one of those types of food like broccoli or spinach that when you have it for the first time, you cringe. It’s like when you were kid at the dinner table refusing to eat your vegetables, and your parents are forcing you. Your parents prod you on and encourage you to eat them saying, “It’s really not that bad!” You look at your parents incredulously because you would have to be insane to say that. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I remember being about 10 years old and finally fed up with the lies. I speared a broccoli, shoved it in my mouth, swallowed, and then defiantly demanded to my parents, “There I ate it, now tell me the truth, does this actually taste good to you?” And my parents, realizing that I was too old for the game of “We love vegetables”, reluctantly admitted to me, “Well yah, it doesn’t taste great, but we’ve learned to like it…” </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Yes! Finally some truth than deception! </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Back to beer – you will never EVER hear a guy admit that beer tastes bad. When questioned, he will skip right to the part of “it’s an acquired taste”. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I had my first real pint of Guinness in Sydney, Australia. Nick was really excited to take me to <a href="http://www.scruffymurphys.com.au/">Scruffy Murphy’s</a> – this famously classic Irish pub in the middle of Sydney Central. Scruffy Murphy’s is notorious for its cheap $5 pints of Guinness – w<i>hat more can a 21 year-old Irish-American male want?</i> </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">So my first time there, he orders me a pint, and I have true intentions to drink it. I can’t help but be excited, because the whole trip there, Nick can hardly contain himself about showing me this brilliant gem and treasure of the pub scene. We arrive, head straight to the bar, are served 2 pints, and “cheers”. But I literally gagged. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">“Ugh, this is disgusting!”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“I love it!”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“But it’s so bitter?”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“Well it’s a stout.”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“How can you drink it?”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“I love it!”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“No, seriously.”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“Ya, I’m serious, it’s great!”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“You’re lying, this is awful.”</div><div class="MsoNormal">“It’s an acquired taste.”</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I mean really, just admit to me that it’s gross. I promise I won’t think less of you as a man. Instead I will acknowledge that you are sane. I just want to be on the same page.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I think it’s totally a societal expectation in America for men to like beer. It’s a macho thing. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">To me, beer is the broccoli in the story, and society is the parent telling me I must consume it. If not for the pressure, I severely doubt that beer would ever be my drink of choice. <br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">Over time, I have learned to drink beer, but only because I don’t want to be a social outcast. Especially since Nick has made it very clear that gagging over a beer <i>is a major party foul</i><span style="font-style: normal;">. </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I will admit it’s kind of a guilty pleasure to be able to have beer with guys. Maybe it’s the fact that I can have whatever Nick’s having and not have to order a sugary girly cocktail.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I mean, what guy wants to be with <i>that </i><span style="font-style: normal;">girl who can’t drink a beer? </span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-67512346799161273422011-02-17T11:56:00.000-08:002011-05-04T01:07:54.020-07:00Going to the Mall<div class="MsoNormal">We’ve all been on a shopping date at one time or another, and that's because going to the mall is the thing to do! A few reasons why:</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Buying Stuff</b> - Girlfriends want to shop because their new boyfriends can buy them things! This is what allowance is for. And if you are a boyfriend, you will soon realize (if you have not already) that <i>your </i>allowance has just become <i>her</i> allowance.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Gift Ideas</b> - How much more obvious of a hint can you give your partner about what you want for Christmas than,<br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Showing off</b> - All your other friends are hanging out at the mall too, so it’s a great place to show off your new shiny trophy. In other words, boyfriend/girlfriend = arm candy.<br />
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</i></div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>PDA</b> – The mall is a public place, and you want to display your affection. Shopping at the mall sounds innocent enough, but who knows what could happen without chaperones around…</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Food</b> - You are too broke to go to fancy restaurants, but the food court offers a variety of cheap meal choices. Pretzels, pizza, sushi, ice cream – <i>how easy is that?</i></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Transportation</b> - If you're a teenager, then you can’t drive yourself or your partner anywhere, but Mom can! You don’t have to be embarrassed – everyone can be seen getting in and out of minivans in the loading zone.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And lastly, perhaps the most serious of all:</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Evaluation</b> - Shopping with someone can reveal a lot about them. You can learn so much about their likes/ dislikes, their opinions, their spending habits, their addictions, their guilty pleasures, their fantasies, and of course, their personality. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal">When we were teenagers, going to the mall with Nick was a frequent activity. As we've matured, I don't drag him along anymore. He hates it, and I try to understand that... </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Although recently we had to go shopping (haha), because I wanted to exchange some birthday presents. As always, he fell asleep within 5 minutes of following me around, but because of all the evaluation he had done in years past, we were fairly quick to find something else that I liked it. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><i>I love that we both know what I like.</i></div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-65901281766161621492011-02-14T16:28:00.000-08:002011-05-18T19:45:29.012-07:00Valentine's Day<div class="MsoNormal">Most boyfriends cringe at the thought of Valentine’s Day, and most girlfriends flaunt all of their expensive gifts on Facebook. Something is wrong with that picture.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">At its core, Valentine’s day should be a day dedicated to love. It should be a day of presents, cards, and romantic meals. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It should NOT be a day with a price tag attached. It should not cost a trip to Tiffany’s, Hallmark, or ___<i>insert overpriced restaurant here</i>____. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It’s pretty sad that so many people hate Valentine’s Day because of the commercial pressure to spend. I don’t blame them in this economy. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I mean really, <b>no money</b> has to be spent at all to make the day special.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In fact, unless you are dating a genuine gold-digger, your girlfriend will love you for spending time with her and making something from scratch. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I get that some women NEED/EXPECT really nice gifts, but maybe that’s because that’s all they get! If Valentine’s Day was the one day out of the whole year that I got spoiled, then yes, I would expect a lot too. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">But really, how can we blame guys for resenting the holiday when they already are forking out the dough for beautiful birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, and anniversary gifts?</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">As women, we need to let our guys off the hook a little when it comes to Valentine’s, because if they are TRUE gentlemen (as I am sure they are), we need to recognize that they treat us well all year long. It should not be mandatory for them to spend a lot today, when they are good to us everyday.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Now, for all the jerks out there who ARE horrible boyfriends 364 days out of the year, then no, you are not allowed off the hook. You SHOULD be endorsing Tiffany’s, Hallmark, and taking her to ___<i>insert overpriced restaurant her</i>e_____. But hopefully ladies, you are not dating this kind of jerk, otherwise, you should be dumping them and moving on today!</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And for those guys dating gold-diggers, let’s be honest. If your girl always wants to be spoiled with expensive gifts, and Valentine’s Day is breaking your bank and your heart for not being able to please her, then you should be moving on too! Dump her, because she really does just want your money.<br />
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</div></div><div class="MsoNormal"><b>Your loved one just wants to be loved by you.</b></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><i>If they want to hear your words -</i> instead of buying a Hallmark card, make one! Write a little poem and create your own card out of good ol’ construction paper. A little reminiscent of kindergarten, but so fun! And for people that hate crafts, I swear if you try, you will succeed! Your efforts will be appreciated, always so sweet. (The only exception is the gold-digger, she will probably throw it away after).</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><i>If they simply want your time</i> - take a walk together! On your lunch break in the park (if that’s all you can do) or when you get home from work, a stroll under the stars. No distractions (no cell phones) - just quality time being together. </div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><i>If they want something special to eat </i>– stay in! Bake your own cookies! Especially if you are newly dating, then guys – she very well might appreciate your effort in making a nice meal at home, then seeing you cringe at the fat dinner bill. You don’t want to make it awkward. Awkwardness is NOT HOTT on Valentine’s Day. Now, I’m not proposing for everybody to boycott restaurants today; I think the idea has actual merit. Hey, if you can afford it, go for it. But ladies, don’t expect a $200 dinner, and guys, please don’t blow a paycheck just to impress her.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Valentine’s Day is great opportunity to show your affection, and if you can find creative ways to make it <b>cheap</b>, it can be that much more sentimental.<br />
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I took my own advice this year and made some cupcakes for Nick. As I was writing this post, I realized that in all years we've been together, I haven't baked a single thing for him! You can imagine his surprise when I explained that not only did I make them, but also they were his! He honestly didn't believe me.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-53906060600609926302011-02-10T12:16:00.000-08:002011-05-04T01:04:50.686-07:00Picking Movies<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">When you are on a first date with a guy, let’s be honest: you either see a scary movie or a romantic comedy.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">This is easily explained.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">If you are seeing a scary movie, the guy is being a slickster by getting the girl to NEED HIM on the first date. The girl is put in a situation where there is fear and stress, and the guy is there to comfort and protect. The girl is forced to cling to her guy when it gets rough.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Now, if you are seeing a romantic comedy, the guy is being a gentleman and letting the girl INDULGE HERSELF on the first date. <i>He knows</i><span style="font-style: normal;"> that </span><i>she believes</i><span style="font-style: normal;"> that if she gets to watch a wonderful love story unfold in front of her eyes, the very same magic might happen to her with the guy she’s sitting next to.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">A scary movie promises a physical connection, but a romantic comedy promises a lasting connection.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">This is why I believe that guys who really want to keep their girls will watch an infinite number of romantic comedies to keep them happy.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I have yet to meet a girl who says, “ I just watch all those slasher, zombie, war, and gory movies so that he won’t dump me.”</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">It just doesn’t work that way.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">After probably a year of dating, I slowly started to offer to let Nick choose the movie. Nick at first refused the offer of watching ____<i>insert guy movie here</i><span style="font-style: normal;">____ and still let me choose. I, being a </span><i>reasonable </i><span style="font-style: normal;">female, aware of his patience and efforts in trying to please me, gradually continued to encourage him to choose the movie.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">So, with the promise of having a wonderful movie date done <i>his</i><span style="font-style: normal;"> way, Nick and Emily finally choose a guy movie.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">As typical, it’s violent, deeply disturbing, and filled with dirty jokes. It’s rated R.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Unfortunately for Nick, this goes horribly wrong.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Emily tries to sit through it. She endures the bloodshed with a queasy stomach, she muffles her screams when body parts get hacked, and she refrains from storming out of the theater at all the offensive jokes.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">By the end of the movie, Emily is scarred for life. And she is in a terrible mood.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">The plan was crap. <br />
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</tbody></table></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">As Nick and Emily continue their relationship, Emily gets better about watching guy movies, but rules are established and enforced.<br />
1. Nothing rated R for violence.<br />
2. Nothing over PG for being scary.<br />
3. Nothing over PG-13 for inappropriate guy humor.<br />
Emily watches movies that Nick wants to watch, but it’s a risky situation every time.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">You know, sometimes I feel bad that Nick has to watch so many sappy movies with me, but the truth is:</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;"><i>The night is just better for both of us if I get to watch what I want to watch. </i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;"><br />
</div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8695894805573710824.post-90965138990312032012011-02-10T12:15:00.000-08:002011-05-04T01:02:13.828-07:00Sharing Food<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I don’t remember the exact date that my boyfriend and I started sharing food, but what I do remember is that HE HATED IT.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">My boyfriend is not good with sharing with food, and he made it very clear to me that HE WANTED HIS OWN FOOD.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I can’t remember the first instance, but it was probably when we were ordering ice cream at Coldstone, or buying donuts at the bakery, or choosing candy at the movie theater. I probably wanted a little bit of whatever he was eating, just to try it of course, and he <b>flatly</b><span style="font-weight: normal;"> refused.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I found his response to be very hurtful, “Why doesn’t he want to share food with me? What is the big deal? I only want one bite – what’s wrong with that? It’s not like I want the whole thing; I just want a little! Why can’t I just taste it? I only want to taste it!”</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">BUT NO<span style="font-weight: normal;">. I was not allowed a taste, sample, or bite.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">All I got was a “Whoa whoa WHOA – GET YOUR OWN!”</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I was a very confused girlfriend.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">But I quickly moved from hurt to offended.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I couldn’t believe this was happening! Such a small bite was turning into a very big deal!</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I looked at my boyfriend with a look of disgust. “Who is this guy? Where is this even coming from? Who is the man behind this façade of niceness that I’ve been seeing until this point? …. In fact - <i>who are you</i><i>???</i><span style="font-style: normal;">”</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">When I was little, I always had to share my food. My parents taught me to share everything with my brother. My family is Filipino, and if there’s one thing about Filipinos – we share food.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Filipinos have a communal attitude when it comes to food. If you ever visit the Philippines, or the home of a Filipino American family, you will be offered food. Nay, not just offered food, but FORCED food. Filipinos want to feed you, and they want to feed you THEIR food.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">So as a kid, when our family was out, and us kids wanted a soda, or candy, or a bag of chips, or ice cream, of course, we had to share.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">It was quite the opposite for my boyfriend. Upon spending more time with his family, and learning more about their home culture, I realized that <i>no one had to share.</i></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">If one sibling was snacking on ice cream, and another was drinking soda, and the other was eating candy – they never asked for a nibble of anyone else’s food. “How funny,” I would think to myself.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Because in my family, if anyone was ever eating something from the kitchen, another family member would say, “Oh, what are you eating?” And the response would be, “Oh here, have some. You want some?”</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I never observed this kind of dialogue in Nick’s family. Everyone had separate snacks and separate desserts and separate everything. Upon more questioning, I found out that in Nick’s family, sharing was never an issue. As a kid, Nick always got to have his own snacks, and never had to share with his siblings.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">I thought this was so bizarre. I could not relate to Nick’s upbringing because it was just so different from mine. Sharing food is such a common practice in my family, that when Nick acted differently about it, I was insulted.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">After a string of small arguments over sharing food, we concluded it was a small, but challenging, <span style="font-style: normal;">cultural difference that needed to be overcome between us. I know every interracial couple faces obstacles, and for us – </span>sharing food is one of them.</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">Since those first stages of dating, we have learned to handle it a little better. I respect the fact that he wants his own portions, (especially if I want more than just a bite) and he respects the fact that I will always want just a <i>little</i><span style="font-style: normal;"> bit of what he’s having.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;">But I’m not gonna lie – even now, after years of being in a relationship:</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 200%;"> We STILL<b><i> </i></b><span style="font-style: normal; font-weight: normal;">argue about sharing food. </span></div>EmilyBhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07638395477088964250noreply@blogger.com1